So, you accidentally cheated on your wife and you want to get her back, but it's proving to be a little bit more difficult than you thought.
Perhaps you feel terribly about cheating on your wife, but at the same time a small part of you finally feels relief from the distance created by your affair?
Whatever your situation, there are a few things you're going to need to do before you can expect to get your wife back into your marriage. What I'd like to do in this article is make it as easy as possible for you to get through this rough spot in your relationship.
How to Get Your Wife Back After Accidentally Cheating
As you continue reading this article I'm going to be going over 3 different things that you're going to have to do throughout the course of saving your marriage. If you want to recreate your marriage in a way that will retain your dignity and your respect as a man.
In fact, by following these 3 steps you could very well rebuild a marriage that was even better than your previous one!
First – Reflect on the Real Reason For Your Unfaithfulness
While many feminist types will tell you that the only reason men cheat is for sex, and the only reason women cheat is for love (or some other noble reason), the fact of the matter is that sex is rarely the sole reason for infidelity.
Why do I say that?
Because any man in a stable and healthy marriage will still easily be able to withstand any and all temptation thrown in front of him.
A man in a healthy marriage won't be tempted by sex, because there's nothing lacking in his sex life, or any other area of his marriage.
Now, I'm not in any way saying that you cheating was your wife's fault. Not at all. You shouldn't have cheated, but what I am saying is that it's important that you identify what in your previous marriage caused you to stray.
Second – Identify What You Want From Your New Marriage
Once you know what in your previous marriage caused you to stray from your vows of fidelity, then you already have at least one thing that you want changed in your new relationship.
However, chances are that there was more than one thing wrong with your marriage. If you really want to be happy, then you need to create a set of goals for your renewed relationship.
- Do you want your wife to treat you with more respect? Many men cheat because they feel that they're totally unneeded in their relationship.
- Do you want to feel more like a man? Many men have affairs because they feel a subconscious need to prove their masculinity to anyone but themselves. Being confidant as a man is extremely important.
- Everyone wants a better sex life – Why not make it one of your goals to create a relationship where you and your wife are constantly reaching for new levels of passion?
Any of these make perfectly good goals for your new marriage, but feel free to think up as many as you see fit. There's nothing wrong with shooting for the moon, you'll at least land on a few stars!
Cheesy, I know.
Third – How to Get Your Wife to WANT You Back
Listen, I'm sure that you've still got a couple of questions about getting your wife back. Unfortunately as much as I'd like it to be, this just isn't a simple matter.
But, this is what I'm going to do for you: